Kill the hate it will only ruin you – Fomer actress, Caroline Danjuma advises people going through divorce as she speaks for the first time about her divorce from Musa Danjuma
Former Nollywood actress, Caroline Hutchins has for the first time shared her experience dealing with her divorce from her billionaire husband, Musa Danjuma.
In a post shared on her Instagram page, the mum of three said her divorce from Mr. Danjuma made her feel like a failure.
According to her, she blamed herself for not making a perfect marriage and also blamed herself for the mistakes they both made in their marriage. She said she began to heal and understood that she wasn’t a failure just because her marriage failed.
She mentioned that sometimes, people are better off as friends than lovers. The actress also pointed out the importance of seeing a professional counselor when going through a divorce.
She advised divorcees to kill the hate they might develop for their partners as it will only ruin them.
Posting the tweet above, she wrote
”I blamed myself for not making a perfect marriage , I blamed my self for both faults of ours until I started healing then I knew I was not a failure .
I prayed to God for assistance most importantly to forgive my self and him.
Rather than hate the outcome of what was , I chose love and peace of mind for what is . We both ain’t perfect and that is what makes us human . I dealt with the hurtful words from friends and strangers , the stigma and constant mockery without knowledge of what truly happened .
God whispered I am with you and that was it . My journey to finding me began and I never looked back . I came , I saw , I conquered , most importantly I have found my lost identity .
Healed , restored , unprovoked, loving and blessed ..#howcarolynagothergrooveback.. thanks to @lanreolusola who spoke through the words in the Bible to help me find my way .
Some of us are better off as friends than lovers . It is ok to see a professional counselor , you ain’t mad you just need clarification . It is ok to fail and rise again . Let God lead you . No hate but love always . Accept your faults forgive the other and move on in peace.
This is my first time talking about my divorce , not an easy journey ,most times very painful moments especially if you are a perfectionist and kids are involved . Kill the hate it will only ruin you . If you are wondering how you will pick up financially trust me you will ,just stay focused and determined . Love without regrets.”